DADDYDONTWANTME.COM

Fadia as you know I'm a single father whom after a 9 year custody battle has come out on top. I was awarded primary custody of my daughter almost 3 yrs ago. Raijene is 13 now and the transition has been good. She received second honors all last year and Is going to the eighth grade. I'm also currently the President of her Home & School. Unfortunate for me those legal fees have costs me to now rent the home that I once owned. So, I'm trying to make an opportunity for me to better myself and for my family. I really think America doesn't get enough chances the see real fathers on T.V. If I can in anyway help mentor or teach other men to step up to the plate and manage there children better please use me, because they truly don't know what it is they are missing out on.

After all of the financial lost I have been threw I would do it all again if it meant being in my daughter's and son's life. As a man even though I go to work every day to a good job I seem to be slipping deeper and deeper into a financial black hole, the bills are coming faster then I can pay them. I ask God to help me so that I don't look like less of a man to my children but at the en of the day I would do it all over again, and that is what you call a father's Love for his children.

It Does not take a Man to make a Baby, but it does take a Man to raise a Child.

First I would like to begin with saying, that I'd like to commend miss Fadia Ward for starting up this website. These immature irresponsible Males need to be put on blast, maybe this site will wake their asses up to realize that they need to be a meaningful part of their childs' /childrens lives. It baffles my mind that in this day an age, how could these so called men allow a woman or girl to raise your child by herself . (now with that said, it is not a knock on our single mothers ) But I could not imagine life without my children, not being able to see them grow up to be productive members society is life I don't want to imagine. The semi-sleepless nights with a newborn or when your child is sick, the joy they bring (when you come home from a ruff day of work or whatever) by greeting you with running hugs and kisses. Makes those sleepless nights worth it, or the days when they ask you 217 questions about everything and even when they're just running wild making as much noise as they possibly can right when you are in the middle of something very important. Being able to see your child' s first steps, hear their first words, or just seeing them smile and have fun, wipes all that stuff that drives you crazy away. Now my job is made easier by having a lovely wife like I do, we both do what is necessary to give our children the best chances possible to succeed in life from children into adulthood. I'll end my story with this. If my wife and I were to separate today or tomorrow, and she were to get custody my children would never go a day without knowing DADDY LOVES them dearly. That is a vow I made to myself the day they were born.

Winston

I was asked the questions, what do I like about being a daddy and why do I stay.

Being a daddy is cool, but what I feel in love with is when I became a father! See being a daddy is easy, anybody can be a daddy. I mean I’ve seen females being daddies now days. Most men stop at just being a daddy because becoming a father actually takes time and work. The time and work that “most” men are afraid of committing to because it takes away from the everyday things that they want to do. I’m not writing this to preach to you, but if more men would become FATHERS instead of just settling for being a daddy this world will be a better place. I’m not just blaming the men either because there are some men that are trying to be a FATHER to their children, but the mothers are too stubborn to let them. THAT NEEDS TO STOP ALSO!

Moving to the next question, which is why do I stay. The reason I stay is because of that 4 letter word L-O-V-E!! First off I love the mother of my children with all my heart. One of my favorite quotes goes something like this “The most important thing a FATHER can do for his children is to LOVE their mother”. I had to put my beautiful wife Denise first because she is the one that made it possible for me to become a FATHER! Then the love I have for my sons (Keyonte 9 years old and Jaylin 2 years old), the smiles I see when I get home from work, the looks on their faces when they know they have done something wrong, seeing so much of myself in them when I look at them, I can go on and on. One thing that I have never understood is how a man can be content with himself knowing his children are being raised by another man or by only their mother. Calling another man daddy or not even knowing a father figure at all!!

Here’s a personal message to all my fathers and mothers out there. In this time and day it is not enough just to find that good “JOB” to provide for your children. No “JOB” is secure now days, so my advice to you is to start looking into starting one of these small businesses out here. For all of you that just said that stuff isn’t for me, well it’s time to stop thinking of yourself and think of your children. Build something now that you can pass down to them when they get of age. Don’t make them have to go through the same things you had to go through. If they decide to go back to school after finishing grade school let it be because they want to learn more trades, not because they need to get a good paying “JOB”!! If you don’t know where to start please take a look at my website at GDSimmons.buildlastingsuccess.com and take a look at the business that I am doing while I still have a full-time “JOB. If this business is not for you please look for one that is and go for it!!

Manning Up,

Gerald Simmons